What is wrong with a little “you” time?


Over the years, i’ve made friends and talked to women that are completely not okay with…touching their own bits. Well, they express that they aren’t okay with it or never want to do so.

Okay, so I am sure there are women (and maybe a small amount of men) that really never masturbate. But for some for women, it’s almost viewed as negative and wrong to want to pleasure yourself. I don’t know where this comes from. Why does society breed people (especially women), to feel guilty about knowing their own bodies? Your alone time with your private parts can actually be one of the healthiest things you can do for your parts. Really? Don’t you want your parts to be healthy? I mean, if a Transformer had a part that wasn’t working properly and he was sent from space to protect you, would you fully trust your life with this robot in disguise? Wait, that might be a bad metaphor. Whatever, let’s go with it.

The point I am trying to make is, you don’t have to be loud and proud of touching your bits but it can be one of the most beneficial things to you and your relationships. Ladies, don’t let society bring shame or guilt for wanting to feel good. That is basically what it boils down to.  Here are some reasons why ‘alone time’ can be a healthy thing for you and your relationships:


❤ Masturbation helps you learn your body. You can figure out what you really need sexually. What are you thinking about when you’re hot and bothered? What works and what doesn’t? This is something that can change within yourself or stay the same for years but it’s best to figure these things out alone. You shouldn’t need someone else there to figure out your own body. It’s your body.

❤ Touching your bits can lead to a healthier you and unit (unit being your lady parts). I think it goes without saying that an orgasm relieves stress and feels great. If you are super stressed out and have a lot of tension, maybe you just need to get off. There is evidence that the chemicals released during orgasm can heal depression. Isn’t that lovely?! Also, gynecologists say that women that masturbate know their bodies more so than someone that doesn’t because you have more one on one time with your vagina. This leads to more visits to the doctor if you know something is up which you would realize sooner than a woman that spends no time with her parts. Healthy is sexy.

❤ The concept being that a sexually active woman need not masturbate is actually not accurate and not cute. Sex with another person is fantastic but touching yourself can be too. Why not have both? I mean, it really doesn’t make sense. If you were at a party, and there was cake AND pie, would you not have the pie because you had cake? I am guessing you would probably have both, or at least take one to go. You don’t go to a concert and watch the encore before you watch the band’s set. You get where I am going with this.  A little indulgence in developing your sexual repertoire will make you a sexier person. Who doesn’t want to be sexy?

I’m happy we could have this little talk. I just find it so weird when I meet a woman that’s like “OH NO! My parts are off limits to myself.” I mean, when you break it down, that’s really what they are saying. So get familiar with yourself. Even if it’s just standing in front of a mirror naked staring at yourself. The more you know your body and are comfortable with it, the healthier and sexier you will be.


Feeling like an adult sex education teacher,

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6 Responses to “What is wrong with a little “you” time?”

  1. james says:

    I agree, completely. Far be it for me to talk about the “unit” from an owners perspective. Although I have had my fair share of successful encounter with them, I am no self proclaimed expert. Touching yourself is not only therapeutic, as eluded to above, but it can actually be a lot of fun. I champion those who choose to take even the most basic of steps in realizing your own sexual well being. No one drives my car better than me. I am rocket fuel, baby. It’s nice for someone to be able to drive me to the store or go one long road trips with, but when it’s a race to the finish line before leaving for work in the morning, I’m the only driver who can get me there. Take the time ladies, and even more gentlemen, get in the drivers seat everyone in a while and just see what get’s your gas pedal to the floor the quickest. Your expert knowledge of your own vehicle may save someone a lot of useless driving around the block in the future.

    -advocating adult sex education

    James B. Mahon

  2. Kudos for putting this post out into the world– it IS one of those annoying topics that most perfectly normal and healthy women are afraid to talk about and admit to. You masturbate– you do. If you don’t, you’re either too scared or grossed out and that’s so sad. Why would you be ashamed of your body and sexuality? Men are not afraid to admit to masturbating– why are we?

  3. laura says:

    wow sexy

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