This post is going to be a bit different as far as “fun” topics but I will try my best to make it as fun as possible. I have had the amazing honor to be on several episodes of the Black Girl Nerds Podcast. Last night’s topic was on interracial relationships and you can give it a listen, here.
Before the show, I was super excited because i’ve dated multiple races and had a lot to say on the topic. Also, I might add if it wasn’t for the “swirl” I wouldn’t exist. The show ended on a somewhat intense but brilliant note. The overall podcast was an hour and a half but there was still SO much to be said and hopefully we will be able to have a part-two for this topic. The discussion made me think of things I never have thought of and never realized a lot of people still have to deal with in 2013. I mean, you would think a lot of these problems would be dissolved by now.
Currently, I am being courted by someone who is white but it never once was a thought in my mind that, “Man, this is going to be a challenge because we have different color skin”. I go into most relationships thinking “This is going to be a relationship and it is going to be hard as hell!” Most relationships are a challenge on their own without race even being in the equation.
In my personal life, I have dealt more with black men having a problem with me dating outside of my race, more so than black women. Like i’ve mentioned last night on the show, it’s due to them not being able to date me because I am in a relationship. But for some reason the fact that the person has a different skin color, it is the first thing they notice. They say things like “You think you’re too good for black men” and a mixed bag of other nonsense and it seriously blows my mind. What decade are we in? Aren’t we supposed to be smarter as a people?
It’s pretty shit state of things when people are still caught up on who people can and can not love. Black or white, male or female, what happened to love being blind? We all face difficulties in our lives and I feel like a lot of people manufacture complications that are completely unnecessary. Why do so many find it necessary to give their opinion on who someone loves?
I really hope we get around to talking more about this topic on the podcast because it’s something that needs to be addressed. We all need to love one another (more than ever) and stop the bullshit.