Dear ladies of the world,
This is addressed to the ladies of the world because over the years, I have noticed some not so awesome actions taking place.
No one ever wants to be a victim of a player. It isn’t fun to fall hard for a guy and then find out that he is dating 14 other ladies. Giving them all the same gifts, lines, and attention that he was giving you. Now, if you’ve never been in this situation before, I would gather you think it would suck but do not fully understand how much it hurts.
Over the years, I have come across a number of lady players. Now, at first I was all like “Yeah! Girl power!” and shit but it’s wrong. Mimicking the behavior of an asshole only makes you an asshole. I will never cosign on intentionally not caring about someone’s emotions when you’re aware of how much they actually care about you.
So this is where I am directly addressing my lovely ladies of the world. Here is a list of the nonsense I have been noticing that needs to stop.
❤ If you have zero intentions on actually being close with someone that you know is REALLY into you, don’t touch him. Don’t kiss him, don’t fondle him, don’t rub his butt, don’t touch him! If you have a good idea that someone is falling hard for you but you aren’t on the same emotional level, don’t get intimate with that person.
❤ Stop expecting him to wine and dine you. This is a HUGE one. I’ve known girls to only date guys for gifts and food. Seriously, think about it. What if it were the other way around? It’s one thing if you’re actually interested in the guy, and he wants to take you out and do something nice for you. It’s totally different when you have no intentions on being with this person but he keeps buying gifts, food, and ponies. You accept these gifts with no intention on being with this person. Not cool, bro-dettes.
❤ Sometimes, we aren’t sure how we feel about a guy in the beginning. This is completely fine…if you express to that to the guy. Don’t allow the first two things i’ve mentioned to take place, until you are sure about your feelings towards this person.
The reason why I am addressing this matter to begin with is, I am friends with lots of great guys. I hear their sides of the story way too often. If these negative actions happen it will then turn these great guys into the guys that we’ve all grown to dislike. The players, the ‘assholes’, the disconnected, whatever the case may be. If we as women, don’t like shit treatment we need to also do our part.
I’m not saying, don’t go on dates and have fun. I’m saying communicate and don’t take advantage of someone. Believe in karma or not, it has happened over and over again. You will get burnt in the end if you keep playing with fire. It’s the ugly truth but the truth we all need to know in order to love one another. There are way too many major issues in the world for people to treat each other like assholes in their intimate relationships.