I had a great conversation with a good friend earlier this week that I have been thinking about a lot. This friend can be an anxious person but mainly because he has huge and great ideas but can not see them happening in the near future. We have all fallen victim to this sort of anxiety. Whether it be losing weight, being a CEO, or being Batman our end goal could not be here fast enough.
The advice I gave him is something that I recently learned within the last few months. The concept is really simple. If you extend the time in which you think something needs to be “complete”, relax a bit, and then continue on your journey, there will be a lot less stress. If you really truly think about it, everything you want is going to take longer than planned. You’re thinking of the wonderful end goal but skipping all of the little stepping stones you need to take to get to the other side of the river.
I remember a while back reading an article on the biggest procrastinating among people is not thinking about how long their end goal will take to achieve. Once they realize how long it takes, they get anxious and sometimes stop moving forward with their idea. The study also had shown when the person gets anxious about moving forward, they tend to not get joy from the journey. It’s best for a person to enjoy what they are doing and what it takes to get to where they are going. Can you imagine if J. K. Rowling rushed all seven Harry Potter novels? Mr. Potter would have been an anxious ball of awful.
I invite you to take a moment and think about your life and see if there is something you can change. Are you living your purpose? Can you possibly extend the deadline in which you gave yourself? Can you give yourself room to breath and play Mario Party?
Most of us are capable of working to a strict deadline. There is a big difference between giving yourself a deadline to make sure you’re geting done what needs to be done and giving yourself space to make sure you’re awesome at it. We all are going to be (more) awesome but make sure it is done on your own time and you’re loving every moment of it. The minute you feel that something is hopeless, you need to step back and rethink the situation.
What do you like to do to take a break from working so hard towards your dreams? I personally want a massive ball pit of my own someday. How awesome would that be on days when you’re feeling overly anxious? You will all be invited to come jump and play in my ball pit.