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Is it worth it, let me work it…

Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

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Photos in this post by Julie de Waroquier.

Hello my little party monsters! Lately I have been super focused on getting in shape and getting healthy. When life’s a party, it’s easy to live off of cupcakes and cocktails. I am happy that two years ago I discovered Work It Dance and Fitness.

I used to dance as a small creature and it was my passion. There wasn’t a moment when I wasn’t thinking about perfecting all of the dance moves from the latest Janet Jackson video or putting on mini concerts for my family. After a couple of hours of reminiscing and a quick google search, I found Work It Dance and Fitness and was shocked at how close the studio is to where I live. I instantly signed up for a Burlesque dance class and I have been addicted since.

Since i’ve been focusing on proper health and wellness for a party girl, I have been asking friends what are they doing to improve their health. The other day a friend said to me “Well, if you’re going to focus on getting in shape and healthy you will have to do something more physical”. I sort of laughed it off but I mean, it’s so nuts how people think dance couldn’t possibly be a great workout. Not only is it amazing for you, but it’s fun! It beats getting on the elliptical for an hour, staring at gray gym walls, and listening to music on your smart phone.

Photo by Julie de Waroquier2

Dancing is one kick ass way to improve more than just your fitness and it’s something you can do even if you can’t make it to a dance class. Fold your laundry and shake it to your favorite jam if you have to. Dance gives you an amazing combination of physical exercise, creativity, mental concentration, and if you do it with others you are improving your social interaction. When you improve on these areas of your life there is less stressing, less nerd rage, you have an increase in your energy and your strength and muscle tone are on point. Sound pretty good right?

Dance is a great activity to add to your daily life for health, wellness and to make everyday a party. Here are some of my reasons as to how dance can improve your quality of life:

Dance makes you feel like a rockstar. Dancing is one of the best ways to build your confidence. When you dance it unleashes a huge pocket of confidence you didn’t even know you had. You can learn a lot about yourself from your movements and having other people watch you move. The more you learn about yourself, the more you’re well on your way to moving like Jagger.

You grinnin’ fool, you! Most of the time, if you see someone dancing you will see that they have a giant sized smile on their face. Dance is meant to make you happy and in turn makes others happy to watch you. It’s the circle of  a dancin’ fool’s life. When you feed your body the movement in which it craves it reacts by giving you happy feelings. When you’re happy you have a ton of energy and in turn can do more with your time, like become a ninja. Who doesn’t want to feel happier or be a fucking ninja?!

The brain can be a scary place. As people, we sometimes get caught up in our own thoughts and don’t just do things because we want to. Don’t get me wrong, thinking and being within your thoughts can be awesome sometimes but you don’t want this to be the constant state of your mind. Do something frivolous on the dance floor and free your mind.

Communication is key. Have you ever been at a party and just stood there wondering how to open up a line of communication with others? Are you the one praying they someone suggests taking out a board game or starts a conversation with you? Why not just bust a move? Communicate by dancing, it does not require you to say one word. It’s a great way to become the life of the party and it might help also bring others out of their shells.

Sexy, sexy, sexy! There was a study on how dancing can make you sexy so it has to be true, right?!

It’s just a little hobby. Learning any dance form or just loving to dance in general is probably one of the coolest hobbies you can add to your list of hobbies. All of your non-dancing friends will assume you are the coolest person ever just because you’re a dance machine.

Geek the fuck out! It always comes back to being a geek. If you decide to pick a dance form to try out, you will get more comfortable within that style, and you will geek out about your new passion. Most geeky types always are looking for something new and exciting to geek out about. Why not add dance to the list? It will add some spice to your geek resume of Star Wars and Domo-Kun. I bet most people would never think you are a geeky lord of dance. It’s a nice little surprise to spice up your geek-dom!

Photo by Julie de Waroquier

When you’re a child dancer and you grow up and out of dance, you always think there is no way you can possibly get back into your practice. I, like many adults was completely wrong. Since finding Work It Dance and Fitness, I personally can say that it has improved my quality of life. From the warm friendly faces, motivational pep talks, and doing something amazing for my body I can say it’s one of my favorite parts of my life. Work It Dance and Fitness has always been a physical challenge but the teachers always manage to kept it fun, fresh, exciting, and new. My love for all that is dance has come back into my life full swing and I couldn’t be happier that it did. I have built quite a wonderful new bunch of friends that I now consider family.

If you are in an area that has a dance studio, I would recommend signing up for a class or two. You will be surprised how quickly dance will become addictive. If you are looking to improve several parts of your life and have fun, dance is probably the best way to go about it.

So it’s time to shake your money maker! Put on your dancing shoes and shimmy your way to a healthier and happier you! Do you think you are going to venture out into the world of dance and take a class or two? Maybe you will be the first one at the next party you’re at to hit the dance floor? Or do you want to start small and be a private dancer for a party of one in your bedroom? I always say go hard or go home!

Stay sexy Gotham!

Holy Troll Batman!

Thursday, June 20th, 2013


Hi guys!

What the troll is going on? Recently, I an got electronic love letter from a lovely woman that decided to tell me that there is no way I am as happy as I appear on the internet. I informed the woman that, I do have my bad days but for the most part I try to live my life to the fullest. She then responded with “BULLSHIT!”. Instead of responding to the e-mail, I decided it would be best to address the matter with a blog post.

I’m sure there are many of us who have experienced the people lurking about on the internet that only can find joy in trying to completely humiliate others. It’s obvious they are doing this just to make themselves feel accomplished and proud. We all try to believe that most people DO mean well and are good deep down inside but face it, it seems like there can be a lot of not so pleasant people on the mean streets of the internet.

When people hide in their living rooms behind a computer screen they feel invisible. People become super villains when they think they can get away with it. They tend to do things that they otherwise wouldn’t. When you think about it, we are all a little narcissistic on the internet and when some people get caught up in this narcissism they like to pick on people that aren’t their norm.


So what is it that we are supposed to do about these trolls? Do we just tip toe around on the internet and hope that we are never the target of these dreaded beasts? Do we just stop talking to people on the internet all together? HELL TO THE NO! Granted avoiding speaking with anyone on the internet would guarantee that you never have another encounter with a troll…we all know we are very much so addicted to the cyber greatness that is the internet.

So we ALL at this point know not to feed the trolls. These creatures feed off of negativity. The best way to battle the negative is with positive. Do you have that one person that constantly disagrees with everything you put on your personal Facebook timeline? Agree with them in the most positive sarcastic way you possibly can. This usually sends the troll in a blind rage which in turn makes you the winner. To top it all off, you might get a few laughs out of your friends who are witnessing the troll and it’s dark cloud of doom. For the life of me, I will never understand the concept of disagreeing with someone on their own personal Facebook page. Stay as positive as possible and it will make dealing with trolls much more pleasant.


Sadly, sometimes the troll doesn’t pick up what you’re putting down. The troll can possibly stick around longer than you’ve expected them to. If you find yourself in this situation, you’ll have to put them down for the long sleep. Not the mobster style long sleep, but rid them from your virtual sanctuary. Blocking is ALWAYS an option. Most social sites and e-mail services give you the option of blocking someone from contacting you. If only blocking one troll could prevent future troll forest fires for everyone on the internet. That would be a HELL of an option.

If you think about it, the main objective of a troll is to silence you. Instead of doing or saying anything there is always the option of giving the troll exactly what they want…silence. Don’t say or do anything that might trigger them.  Let their hateful, negative, Darth Vader blacken hearted comments fester right where they are…UNANSWERED. If they continue to leave lame comments, they will expose themselves by trying to get you to react. I like this idea because all you really have to do is nothing and you win. Like they say “love your haters”, their rage should bring you joy because you’ve officially won. The more they stomp their giant feet under their internet troll bridge screaming at the top of their lungs, the more and more you win. If it ever gets to be intense and you’ve had enough time within your glory remember to block, report, delete, exorcise the demon, or whatever it requires to silence the troll out of your domain.


Have some sympathy for the trolls of the world wide web. While you’re out dancing in the streets, blowing bubbles, having a picnic, and having the time of your life they are spending hours of their time obsessing over how to be negative. Go out and have the kick ass life that we all know you earned because you rock and you win. The more glitter in your life, the more the troll loses.

We all hope that these creatures would have a change of heart and realize they are in the wrong. Recently I had a conversation with my favorite angry Australian, Aaron. He had a moment where he realized he was being a bit of a jerk for all of the wrong reasons. He admitted he was wrong and he was actually rewarded and admired for this. If only other people can have this moment of clarity and the world was troll free. We would all be making sweet internet love and not war.

Why do you think internet trolls are a thing? What are some of the Darth Vader cold hearted moments that you’ve experienced on the internet?

Stay sexy Gotham!

How to cure boredom…forever!

Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

bored sprinkles

I am definitely not one to ever really feel bored. The other day, I was asked what do I do to prevent boredom. When I really took a minute to think about it, I realized I am interested in so many things which in turns gives me a lot to do. Whether it is productive or not, I am a active bunny.

We have the ability to create “busy” work from all over the place. We create our own projects based on our wants, our needs, and what we think we should be working towards. Once I realized what my purpose is and how I want to live my life, I became somewhat overwhelmed with the amount of work it would take to get to where I wish to be. The fun part is actually taking the steps. These steps are what keep me busy and motivated.

Once I started really thinking of all of the ways I occupy myself, I decided to make a list and share it with your lovely people. I hope this list cures your bordem for life and you end up being a crime fighter. LET’S GO!

Let’s go crazy! Prince said it best. Sometimes you have to go completely nuts. Have your own personal dance party while singing as loud as you can. Before you know it, you will realize that you’re having a grand ol’ time, even if it’s by yourself. Tip: The more bass involved in the song the more fun you will probably have.

Gmail would like a little attention. My e-mail account gets a little crazy from time to time. If I have downtime I make the most of it by responding to e-mails and organizing my inbox. It will save you so much time in the long run and you will have that ever so awesome feeling of being productive.

Don’t call me a hippy! Meditation is so fantastic. It is something I feel that most should make a habit.  If you seem to have a shit ton of stress in your life, it wouldn’t hurt to get your brain right. Meditation can bring focus back to the present and calm you down.

Budget yourself before you wreck yourself. Work on your personal finances. It will put you ahead of the game and your wallet will be happy. Who knows, working on your finances when you’re “bored” might be something you learn to love. It could also make you a rich person. Before you know it, you will be  diving into your money like Scrooge McDuck.

Being clean is a good look. Try cleaning something. Unless you’re insanely OCD, there will have something to tidy up. I am always picking up something or folding laundry in between my daily tasks. It’s the only way it would get done otherwise. Make it a fun event. Put on your favorite band and dance around while dusting. Your place will be more than half way clean by the end of the album.

Film it up. Watch a movie at home or go to the cinema. I mean, this should come pretty easy. A good film is always entertaining and it can be as easy as firing up your Netflix account. Films were put on earth for us to enjoy them, use them when necessary.

Amour letter amour. Actually, WRITE a letter of love. How often do we actually sit down and write these days. I try to make it a habit to write daily but in the days of computers, iPhones and tablets, we hardly even know what our handwriting looks like. Write a letter to tell someone how much you love them and actually write it. The person who you’re writing this letter for will love it and feel special. It will also cure you of having the “I have nothing to do” blues.

Nap time is for champions. I think one of my favorite words is probably “nap”. Try resting for a little while because you can never be too well rested. If you’re able to nap somewhere amazing like in a tree hammock, even better. You can’t be bored while you’re dreaming.

The neverending story. Write your story. Even if it’s fictional. Start writing a book for the fun of it. It will be a fun little side project and will be something you can go back to for months and who knows, you might write the next big book series.

How novel of you. Always have a book (or tablet) on person. Having your iPad or an actual book is a easy way to assure you will never be bored. Same goes for magazines and comic books. In your down time, catch up on some reading. Don’t forget that reading IS fundamental after all.

Work it! Sometimes all you need is a little fitness to get you out of the “I have nothing to do” state of mind. Take a new fitness classes, go for a walk, hit the gym, whatever you need to do to feel like you’re accomplishing something and you will be healthier. Tone the butt!

Edumacation! With the magic of the internet, you can improve your knowledge with a few google searches and some free online workshops. Think of something you’ve always wanted to know more about and start to explore.


There are ENDLESS ways you can cure bordem and better yourself at the same time. I hope that some of these tips will jump start new adventures and a better you. You’re already stunning darling, sometimes you just need to throw some glitter on things to fab it up a bit.

Stay sexy Gotham!

Kiss me, I’m an Aries!

Tuesday, March 26th, 2013


Yep! It’s that magical day of the year where I get loads of beautiful messages, gifts, phone calls, and love. Those that know me, know that I am simply in LOVE with my birthday. The date March 26th is actually a pretty popular day to have been born. In my personal circle of friends, I have 9, yes 9 friends with the same exact birthday as myself. I like to joke around and say things like “We must be the chosen. You know, for when doomsday happens”. It’s just so weird that so many people have come into my life that were born on the same day. To make matters even weirder, I come into contact with new people ALL of the time with the same birthday. We are the doomsday warriors.

Earlier today I was talking to my lovely blogcadette friend, Anita. She is another fellow Aries Goddess. She wrote this brilliant post about wanting to hang out with her celebrity birthday twin, Reese Witherspoon. Are you wondering who my celebrity twins are? I literally gush about them every year.


The lovely original Diva herself, Diana Ross.


Rock n’ Roll God, Steven Tyler.

If I were to party with my celebrity twins, it would be a HELL of a fabulous and sparkly celebration. This year I decided to celebrate in a low key manner in Manhattan. It was full of food, drinks, laughs and titty tassels.

I started my birthday celebration with an Aries themed brunch at Yerba Buena with Brittany and the gang. We all ate, drank unlimited brunch cocktails and had a ton of silly conversations. It was the perfect start to the day.

For dessert (yes, you can have dessert to your brunch), I met up with blogcadettes Islandia, Angela, and Charlotte. We met at Sweet Revenge for a brief but necessary gathering. We ate cupcakes, drank booze, and made small talk. I adore these ladies and it was our first time seeing each other since Blogcademy. They filled my heart with glitter and sunshine.

Sadly, I had to cut the meeting short with my blogger lady friends to run off to Ippudo for some ramen and friendly faces. A couple of friends and myself stuffed our faces until I thought I was going to pass out. After dinner we headed over to the Slipper Room for some burlesque greatness. My favorite part of the evening was getting groped by the burlesque host on stage. It was classic and perfect. Low key and exactly what I needed. I didn’t want to go insane with the planning and partying this year. Next year I will be the big 3-0 which means shit is going to get insane.


We Aries can be a handful on a typical day and earlier this morning I was asked how does one “land” a powerhouse Aries. I made a very small but useful list for those that are trying to charm your way into the hearts and pants of a fire-y Aries.

We like funny and witty. If you can make us laugh on a regular then it’s pretty much a done deal.

We love sparkle! Impress us by covering yourself in glitter and standing in the middle of a room and pretending you’re a disco ball.

Surprise us! I haven’t met an Aries that hates surprises. Plan a unique and different outting and take us out on the town in your own special way.

Make us feel special. We take notice. If you remember special dates(anniversaries, birthdays, etc.) or our favorite movies, we will love you. We live for that shit. We like to know we are important.


Last evening I had a brilliant conversation with a friend that i’ve know for all of my 20’s. It was one of those conversations where everything just clicked and I realized that we were on the same wave length. It was so good and such a great way to start my birthday. It definitely made me realize how blessed and honored I am to have such great people in my life. It’s impossible for me to express how much I appreciate all of your support and faith in me.

As I sit here listening to Radiohead and eating a cupcake, I can say I am truly happy. There is no other reason to exist than to live your purpose and be completely joyful. I feel so lucky and wonderful. I wake up everyday and feel an overwhelming positive and supportive energy from my entourage of fabulous. I live day to day as if it’s my birthday. I would like to give a massive THANK YOU to all of you and the universe.


Keep it sexy, Gotham!


How to handle “catty” women.

Wednesday, March 20th, 2013


Photos by the ever so talented Dr-Benway

Ladies, we have to deal with a lot. We deal with grueling beauty regimens. We sometimes work harder than men for less pay. For some of us, having an orgasm requires a magician. We have to bleed every month only to someday carry a tiny human inside of us for nine months. It’s a rough life, but someone’s got to do it, right? With all of this said, why is it that sometimes our worse enemies are those of our own gender?

If you’ve seen the film Mean Girls, I am sure you loved it but also had situations in your life where you can totally relate. No matter what your age, it’s possible to run into a scary and vindictive monster of a female. This behavior can sometimes make life very difficult and cause tons of hurt feelings. The whole mean girl complex totally bothers me because it’s all about sisterhood and uniting. Being that I have had some run ins with some not so nice ladies over the years, I thought I would make this how to guide on how to handle catty women.


Retract your claws! When these evil ladies are giving you dirty looks, whispering about you to their friends, and being down right awful don’t feed into it. Retract your claws and end the cycle of terrible. If someone is being a jerk towards you they are wanting you to react so why give them what they want? Don’t let the terrorists win!

Kill your “enemy” with kindness. This is one of my personal favorites. Nothing bothers a mean person more than if you’re nice to them. In my brain, it’s a form of forgiveness but in their mind they have little incentive to continue being an awful person towards you. The catty girl of your nightmares might just move on to her next victim. In her eyes you just turned into Mother Theresa and you are useless to her. 

❤  Call ’em like you see ’em! I’m definitely not saying go about being rude and bitchy towards the wrong doer. I am saying there might be times when you can actually talk out the situation. Let the person know how they are making you feel like shit. This is usually a great approach to take if being nice hasn’t worked out in your benefit. Keep down the path of being a positive and brave little toaster and let her know that she is being a total out of control evil being. Let her know that you have feelings and you don’t think the way she is treating you is a proper way to go about things. Be the bigger person if you are being bullied. 




The end is near! The end to girl on girl crime. We can stand together and decide now to not prolong catty behavior. We can beat this once and for all by taking the higher road.

Another great way to end the catty vicious cycle is by not avoiding making friends with a female because of past experiences. Not all women are competitive, or out to get you, or evil. The more you hold on to the idea that most women are catty, the more you will become catty.


Nothing but love for my lovely ladies!